For gay, lesbian or bisexual people who are closeted, sexual desires can often be alarming or even frightening. Because of a fear of discrimination or rejection from the ones they love, they often don’t feel safe asking for guidance about even the most basic biological questions concerning their bodies’ sexual reactions. We’ve heard words like “perverted,” “unnatural,” and “sick” to describe typical sexual fantasies or arousal.
We speak with many people about this issue, and let them know that attraction and arousal are normal reactions, and that thinking about sex is natural too. We can also answer questions about safer-sex, and keeping yourself as safe as you want to be if you are sexually active.
Here at the GLBT National Help Center, we focus our discussion around feelings, rather than actions. If you have a technical question about the mechanics of sex, we are able to refer people to the San Francisco Sex Information Switchboard, a wonderful organization, independent of us.