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“When did you know?”

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A common question that gay, lesbian, bisexual and/or transgendered people are asked is “When did you know?”  It’s a tricky question in terms of sexual orientation and gender identity.  People who have not struggled with these issues sometimes operate under the assumption that a switch was flipped and all became clear, but that is often not the case.

Discovering one’s own sexual orientation or gender identity can be a short or long process, depending on many things like environment, self-awareness, and exposure to different ideas.  But one thing is for sure: Once people discover they are queer, it is significantly easier to come out if they are in a loving and supportive environment.

Please read this touching essay written by a mom of a six-year-old about how she is creating an environment where it is okay for her son to be whoever he is.

Want to talk about this or other issues?  Give us a call, start a chat or send us an email.

Written by glbtnhc

January 9, 2012 at 4:22 pm

Posted in Coming Out, Parent

Family

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Every holiday season, the hotline sees a jump in calls dealing with the anxiety of seeing relatives who are non-accepting or non-tolerant of those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual and/or transgender.  It is often depressing for those in the queer community to think about interacting with groups of people who do not respect or acknowledge who they are or whom they love.  There’s a reason that those in the queer community refer to each other as “family,” even if they’ve just met — historically, they’ve chosen their own families for support.

Many callers find solace in the idea of holding several celebrations, making sure to include time with people who are supportive — chosen family.  It can offset a difficult gathering of blood relatives if they have recently had affirmation that their accepting friends love them regardless of their orientations or gender identifications.

Still other callers benefit from being reminded that they can make choices about who they choose to see around the holidays (and any time of year).  If people are not respectful of who they are, they can choose to limit interactions with them.

Are you just now getting over a family get-together?  Give us a call, send an email or start a chat.  We’re here for you!

Written by glbtnhc

January 2, 2012 at 7:58 am

Posted in Relationships